I think the whole point of giving a compliment is to a way to form closer bonds with people, so here’s some ideas to think about when you’re wanting to pay a compliment to someone or find yourself receiving one.

GIVING A COMPLIMENT

• Think of it as a gift from your heart.
• Be sincere in your opinion.

Steps to take:
1- Find a specific quality you admire in the other person
2- Back it up with the reason WHY you think so.
3- Follow up with a question.
4- Listen.

• Don’t compare them to others in a positive or negative way. “You’re just like this other person.”
• Be sincere by being confident in your opinion.
• Ask for nothing in return. Don’t give a compliment if what you really want something back from it (like a favor) Ask for that instead.

RECEIVING A COMPLIMENT

1- Thank them, then stop. Don’t let anything negative come out of your mouth.
2- Think about the compliment.
3- Share with them how the compliment makes you feel.

• Do not dismiss their opinion. Many of us have been conditioned to dismiss compliments.
• Don’t transfer the credit. This is your chance to receive love.
• If you want to share credit, do so only after the feelings have been acknowledged.

A compliment is a great opportunity to form a closer bond between people and raise people’s confidence in themselves.

Here’s my attempt to pay our audience a no-strings-attached compliment:

I think you, our listeners, are great people. I really enjoy reading your responses on the website and in the community. Whenever we meet, we always have a great time and you never disappoint me when I need your support. I want you guys to know how much joy it is to me to be able to speak to such a colorful and wonderful set of people on a daily basis. What are your hopes and dreams?

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